What I Learned Saying Kaddish Three Times a Day

In a world of increasing volatility and lack of visibility the need for a strong anchor in our lives is more  urgent than ever. 

With lightning-speed technological innovation, our lives are in constant disruption. To endure, we must connect to a force that transcends the chaos.

In a fascinating discussion, the Midrash presents a debate over which verse should be considered the most central in the Torah.

Three verses are proposed:

First: “Hear O Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord is One.”This verse articulates the core of Jewish faith — the uncompromising belief in one God.

Second: “Love your fellow as yourself.” This verse, which Rabbi Akiva famously called “a great principle of the Torah,” represents the moral heart of Judaism.

The third — and most intriguing — is: “The one lamb you shall offer in the morning, and the second lamb you shall offer in the afternoon.”

What’s most surprising is that the Midrash ultimately favors the third verse — the daily offering of the lamb. 

The lesson is both timely and timeless. It captures the essence of the Jewish people’s extraordinary resilience amid unparalleled upheaval. 

Beautiful ideals and values can quickly fade unless they are firmly anchored in consistent daily practice — regardless of mood or circumstance.

It is only through the disciplined practice of routine action that abstract beliefs and lofty values become deeply entrenched in our psyche.

I experienced this personally, especially over the past year, as I took on the responsibility of leading services and reciting Kaddish three times a day — each day — in memory of my late father.

At first, it felt like a heavy burden — overwhelming the rest of an already full day. But over time, I experienced quite the opposite. Instead of feeling stifled or inundated, I found a surprising sense of clarity, energy, and release.

The discipline brought focus and direction. My life became more intentional, guided by a deeper sense of purpose. I found myself operating within a more meaningful framework, able to channel my energy more effectively and prioritize with greater clarity.

Volatility can be either a challenge or an opportunity. Spiritually, the potential upside is immense. The choice is ours.